Author, speaker and relationship coach Shela Dean will show you how.
What? Foreplay's not about sex? Then what is it about — cooking?
No, although cooking can be excellent foreplay.
Foreplay is also about intimacy — emotional intimacy between yourself and your partner. That kind of foreplay is what leads to a great marriage or any great romantic relationship — including truly awesome, passionate, my-eyes-are-rolling-back-in-my-head sex.
Maybe you've read a self-help book — one of those "create intimacy in your marriage" paperbacks. Or watched a video, attended a talk, seen a therapist. There's no shortage of advice out there. But most of it is so vague that it's meaningless. And it misses the fundamental point: Intimacy is the product of deep, emotional, mutual understandings that are not simple to achieve.
Look at it this way: You and your partner need to trust and respect each other. And trust and respect are very personal things, based on your own unique and specific idea of how people should behave towards each other. Your sense of right and wrong has been under development for however many decades you've been alive.
But here's the first crazy thing: You and your lover may not have the same idea of what trust and respect mean!
Now here's the other crazy thing: It's fine if you don't — so long as you understand each other.
And this, dear reader, is where Frequent Foreplay Miles comes in.
Frequent Foreplay Miles: Your Ticket to Total Intimacy is a sex book with a twist — it's not about how to have sex. It's how to want to have sex with your lover — how to reach the level of intimacy that makes amazing sex a frequent and natural part of your relationship.
Don't let anyone fool you: WOW! sex comes from a WOW! relationship. And a WOW! relationship is one where there's great emotional foreplay. It's not easy to get there. But whoa, Nellie — is it worth it!
Frequent Foreplay Miles is a clever scoring system for you and your lover that will help you feel loved, cherished, nurtured, supported, understood — all the prerequisites for astounding sex. Yes, it's a scoring system, okay? Grow up — we all keep score. Everyone knows whether they're riding high or in the doghouse and where their significant other is. But here's the really really important difference:
Frequent Foreplay Miles facilitates emotional intimacy. Suddenly every discussion is fun and sexy — no matter what you're talking about. With the techniques you'll learn in Frequent Foreplay Miles, you'll always be coming closer together — and you know where that leads.
When you've learned the techniques and tricks of Frequent Foreplay Miles, you'll see every interaction as an opportunity for foreplay. You'll speak candidly and argue constructively, spin negatives into positives and embrace your differences rather than lash out futilely. You'll cherish each other and your special connection, relying on your bond to cope with overbearing in-laws, job insecurities and whatever else life throws your way. You'll be happier and even healthier and find yourself reinvigorated with the joy and passion of your younger years.
Oh, and speaking of reinvigoration — let's just say now might be a good time to oil your bedsprings. They'll be getting a workout.
"Shela's Frequent Foreplay Miles is a playful way of making sure your relationship is on the right runway. Whether flying solo or with a partner, let this book be your guide to a healthy relationship filled with satisfying intimacy and amazing emotional highs you'll be happy to brag about to your close friends."
— Larry James, Author of How to Really Love the One You're With
"I wanted to say thank you! You absolutely saved my marriage which, after 25 years, was on the brink of divorce. About 2 months after I read your book and followed your advice, my husband noticed the change in me. We were no longer fighting and I had stopped sniping at him. I shared your book with him. He read it in one sitting and couldn't put it down. That's when the real process of fixing our marriage began. We are talking more than we have in 10 years, are in love again, and the fireworks have been re-ignited! Thank you, Shela, for making the emotional love in our life stronger and for making the physical love happen again."
— Marla M.
Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach and speaker. She has counseled more than 2,000 couples since 1983 and is the author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy! Shela began studying the dynamics of personal relationships during her two-decade career as an estate and family attorney before retiring from law to begin coaching in 2004.
I'm married to Dale who is hands down, the nicest guy on the planet. He's kind, generous, cute, a great cook, and funny. He's not, of course, perfect. For example, he's chronically late. In fact, that's why Frequent Foreplay Miles began. It was over morning coffee and cinnamon-toast when, 10 years ago, I explained to Dale the effect his being late had on me.
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