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What would happen if every couple accumulated Frequent Foreplay Miles™ with the same enthusiasm as travelers collect frequent flier miles?
Divorce lawyers would be out of work!
More importantly, couples would create Total Intimacy in marriage or in their other primary relationship. Total Intimacy is when . . .
Nature's Tit-for-Tat
(and how to use this for creating intimacy in marriage!)
Have you ever said to your sweetheart, "I owe you one," or, "You just lost a few points," or "Don't I get credit for . . .?"
Sure you have. Since the day Adam met Eve, couples have ignored relationship gurus who warn of the dangers of keeping score. We know we shouldn't, but truth be told, we all judge our sweetheart's words and actions based on our individual perception of how things should be. We do it secretly, awarding and deducting "points" without our partner ever knowing why or when, harboring grudges and resentment that are too often based on nothing more than differing perspectives.
For most of us, this has the biggest impact on relationship intimacy, in and out of the bedroom. Who hasn't gone silent over a perceived wrong? Or gone to bed with some simmering grudge and turned a back to the sweetheart who is left wondering why?
With a US divorce rate of 50%, it's time to stop fighting human nature. By channeling the human proclivity to keep score in a positive direction, Frequent Foreplay Miles™ gives couples a common language with which to communicate a range of sentiments, from profound declarations of love to heart-bruising disappointment or seeing-red anger, to the everyday exchanges that really make or break a relationship. Couples learn how to build a passionate, rock-solid marriage and how to create and sustain Total Intimacy while they also learn how to:
Is Frequent Foreplay Miles™ for you?
The Total Intimacy Program is right for you if:
I invite you to read an excerpt from my book and pre-order an autographed copy today.
Want to know about how it works and have a little fun? Subscribe to my Blog - Total Intimacy Blog - and check out this month's Frequent Foreplay Miles™ Dilemma to win a $25 gift certificate to Amazon.com!
More importantly, couples would create Total Intimacy in marriage or in their other primary relationship. Total Intimacy is when . . .
- You are so connected in mind and heart that you feel a physical bond
- It's totally cool to share your innermost thoughts needs and desires
- You are 24/7 cheerleaders—nurturing, loving and supportive of each other
- You trust that even when you butt heads, step on each others toes, or get your wires crossed, you each acted with the best intentions
- And, as frosting on the cake, you are continually improving intimacy and want to jump each others bones at every opportunity!
Nature's Tit-for-Tat
(and how to use this for creating intimacy in marriage!)
Have you ever said to your sweetheart, "I owe you one," or, "You just lost a few points," or "Don't I get credit for . . .?"
Sure you have. Since the day Adam met Eve, couples have ignored relationship gurus who warn of the dangers of keeping score. We know we shouldn't, but truth be told, we all judge our sweetheart's words and actions based on our individual perception of how things should be. We do it secretly, awarding and deducting "points" without our partner ever knowing why or when, harboring grudges and resentment that are too often based on nothing more than differing perspectives.
For most of us, this has the biggest impact on relationship intimacy, in and out of the bedroom. Who hasn't gone silent over a perceived wrong? Or gone to bed with some simmering grudge and turned a back to the sweetheart who is left wondering why?
With a US divorce rate of 50%, it's time to stop fighting human nature. By channeling the human proclivity to keep score in a positive direction, Frequent Foreplay Miles™ gives couples a common language with which to communicate a range of sentiments, from profound declarations of love to heart-bruising disappointment or seeing-red anger, to the everyday exchanges that really make or break a relationship. Couples learn how to build a passionate, rock-solid marriage and how to create and sustain Total Intimacy while they also learn how to:
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- See every occasion as an opportunity for "foreplay"
- Keep new-love playfulness alive
- Develop the habit of constructive candor
- Turn knee-jerk negative reactions into positive spin
- Create and sustain a generous state of mind
- Embrace differences as a way to express love
- Honor and protect their relationship in the face of challenges
- Enrich themselves and their union through personal growth
- Overlook habits that can drive each other crazy
- Cope with in-laws, children, friends and other "fellow travelers"
Is Frequent Foreplay Miles™ for you?
The Total Intimacy Program is right for you if:
Curious? Want to know more?
- You want a healthier, happier relationship
- You want to add more fun, joy, passion and clarity to your relationship
- You want to nurture your relationship and keep it from ever becoming a troubled marriage
I invite you to read an excerpt from my book and pre-order an autographed copy today.
Want to know about how it works and have a little fun? Subscribe to my Blog - Total Intimacy Blog - and check out this month's Frequent Foreplay Miles™ Dilemma to win a $25 gift certificate to Amazon.com!
The book!
Release Date
Sept '09
Release Date
Sept '09
Frequent Foreplay Miles is a simple yet valuable and effective structure for communicating with your spouse. It helped us "see" each other in a way we never have before, and it helped us know what we can do to improve our marriage while having fun doing it?
Genevieve R.