Making a list and checking it twice. Sadly, most of the lists we create aren’t the type that end in a pile of gifts wrapped in silver and gold. When it comes to our relationship, they’re usually honey-do lists, or worse, a long mental list of grudges and annoyances we carry around like a bag of rocks. And to make matters worse, as most of us know, it’s really easy to fall into a relationship rut, even without realizing, and end up with roll-your-eyes annoyed or shrug-your-shoulders boredom as your constant companions.
Yep, before you know it, you and your can’t-live-without honey find yourselves sitting in front of the TV nine days out of ten and only really talking to one another when something goes wrong. Why is that? Don’t we want to connect to our lovers as more than housemates and business partners? Have we just forgotten how to connect over anything that isn’t an “issue?” Of course not. We just need to be more diligent about seizing the opportunities to be together.
I am a huge proponent of actually getting out and doing fun and silly things together. I think all relationships should find outside interests to do as a couple (and individually) to keep you interested—and interesting. Take a course, shoot pool, play tennis, go bird watching … the list is honestly endless. So get out your calendars and plan some dates. Just for the fun of it though, right in this very moment, I thought I’d give you a new twist on an old game to help you connect with your honey over something whimsical. So grab a nice bottle of something interesting this evening, and instead of the same old TV shows, try this new twist on a good old-fashioned game of Sexy Mad Libs. Take turns answering and have fun filling in the blanks!
#1. I would like you to _________________ my ____________________. (If you said “wash” and “car,” you really are in a rut. Come on, get with the program here!)
#2. My favorite words to hear from you are _________________________.
#3. I wish you would ______________________________.
#4. My favorite memory of us is when we __________________________.
#5. It drives me crazy, in a good way, when you ___________________.
#6. My biggest secret turn on is _______________________________________________.
Okay, now that you’ve filled out your Mad Libs, take action and deliver on what your sweetie wrote down. You’ll be out of your rut, at least for a little while and that’s a very good thing.
Take the time to play. It’s fun and if you end up laughing until you cry, that’s a bull’s eye. Laughter truly is the antidote to boredom, anger, grudges and resentment. Tap into your Inner B Type! Stop to smell the roses, to play a few games, and to enjoy your sweetie for no particular reason whatsoever. You feel more connected and a lot less bored.
So whaddya say? Go ahead. Roll the dice, collect the money from free parking, pass GO and land in jail, yell bingo, break the bank. There are more times than not when life really can be fun and games.
With love, Shela Dean
Relationship Coach and Author of Frequent Foreplay Miles
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