Okay, this one is for the ladies’ eyes only but, in the end, it’s for the guys, too. So, girlfriends, when was the last time you planned to seduce your guy, and set the stage for a night of wild abandon? If it’s been a while (or even if it hasn’t), here’s an idea that will have him eating out of the palm of your hand and loving it.
Set a date for your… Read the rest
Last week I was fortunate to sit at the knee of Jack Canfield and learn about the principles of success. Jack is the amazingly successful co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, a book that began a phenomena in the publishing industry. Just the evening before, Jack learned they had sold a half billion books—500 million books and, yeah, baby, that pretty much redefines “success” in the publishing world. I immediately bought… Read the rest
You screwed up. You inadvertently stepped on your sweetheart’s toes. Or you were in a foul mood and behaved accordingly. Or you were a knucklehead and said or did the wrong thing. Now it’s time to make amends. You know from experience that simply saying, “I’m sorry!” doesn’t cut it even if you really are sorry. So, how do you express regret in a way that your sweetie not only gets it,… Read the rest
I have years of conflict resolution under my belt. In my prior life, as an estate attorney, I watched families nearly come to blows over who would get the beaten-up old armoire, and I’ve seen others peacefully divide diamonds and fortunes. Those who learned how to handle day-to-day conflicts are definitely better at the really big issues that life inevitably throws at all of us.
Handling conflict with ease is a skill worth developing,… Read the rest
Making a list and checking it twice. Sadly, most of the lists we create aren’t the type that end in a pile of gifts wrapped in silver and gold. When it comes to our relationship, they’re usually honey-do lists, or worse, a long mental list of grudges and annoyances we carry around like a bag of rocks. And to make matters worse, as most of us know, it’s really easy to fall into a… Read the rest
Today is a great day for a last minute play-hooky-date with your sweetie, to hit the snooze button and snuggle under the blanket. Too late? Already at work when you stole the three minutes to read this? Even better. You can plan to “steal” tomorrow and make it special with a little prep that you can do tonight. Time with your honey to do nothing but enjoy each other, even in the silences—well, it… Read the rest
There’s a split among experts about whether the kids or the relationship should come first. Frankly, I think putting your relationship first is putting your kids first. Why? Because if you want your children to grow up and have healthy, well-balanced relationships, a fulfilling sex-life, and a good sense of self, it starts with you setting the example.
It’s a parent’s #1 obligation to teach their children how to be happy, well-balanced, confident adults… Read the rest
Dating. That magic combination of time well spent, shared activity, and head-over-heels companionship with someone you genuinely adore being with. Remember that experience? I’ve been writing about dating lately. Why? Because it works! But, I realize that you’ve only been getting my thoughts and musings on the perfect Saturday-night soiree or TGIF excursion. So I’ve asked others to share their BEST date stories with me. If you’d like to participate in that discussion, connect… Read the rest
The enemy of a great relationship is complacency. It begins so innocently. You forget how attractive, funny or caring your honey is because you’re together all the time. You get wrapped up in your “stuff” and forget to do the little, day-to-day things that make your sweetheart aware of your love. You forget how good life feels because you picked someone amazing and the lottery win of being picked back. Before you know… Read the rest
I’ve been thinking a lot about dating and how a relationship is so ooh-la-la hot those first few months we’re in them. You know what I mean, that can’t-live-without-you-another-second obsession and the please-stop-talking-and-kiss-me passion. Recent research says that some of those reactions are totally beyond our control. We call it chemistry. Like our heartbeat, simply existing without our input, there’s a release of hormones that create the “falling” in love sensation. Okay, maybe we… Read the rest
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