Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy

Improving Intimacy

Intimacy—in and out of the bedroom. It’s what every couple wants. Sadly, even couples who are seemingly made for each other have better than even odds of experiencing intimacy issues that can leave them sitting in divorce court wondering what in the heck happened. Why? What does happen? And what can you do to beat the odds?

Falling in love is a hormone-induced high you hope will never end. But no matter how hard you try to maintain that falling-in-love high, it will end. It happens to every couple. In fact, there’s a scientific explanation not only for why you experience the high, but also for why it ends. Neuroscientists care about stuff like that and while their findings may be reassuring that you’re not alone, you’re still left with the intimacy issues that brought you to this website.

If you’re like most couples, as the falling-in-love high fades, you realize that you each have quirks, flaws, and habits that drive the other teeth-clenching crazy. And, you find yourselves butting heads, stepping on each others toes, and getting your wires crossed. Here’s why:

Each of you came to the relationship with a unique and vastly complex set of preferences, opinions, priorities, standards, points of view and sensitivities, all shaped by your DNA, upbringing, education, life’s experience, religious or philosophical training, culture, and self-perception. All of that combines to form your personal navigation system or, in the context of relationships, what I call your Foreplay Navigator™ and it serves as the:

• Guide for how we navigate life and our primary relationship, and the
• Standard by which we judge whether others, including (perhaps especially) our sweetheart, are flying right.

In short, we automatically, and without much conscious thought, behave and judge according to our own Foreplay Navigator while our sweetheart is doing the same thing!  It’s a little like two people playing the same game but with two sets of rules, each set unknown to the other. Misunderstandings are not only understandable, they’re inevitable. Sure, your Foreplay Navigators overlap in fundamental ways or you wouldn’t be a couple in the first place. They also differ in a zillion ways, ways that lead to disagreements, hurt feelings, and misunderstandings, all of which play havoc with intimacy.  So, what can you do about it?

Improving Intimacy: Frequent Foreplay Miles helps you understand your partner’s Foreplay Navigator.

Imagine how much stronger, more intimate, and happier your relationship would be if you each had a better understanding of the others Foreplay Navigator™ and the tools to identify and heal unintentional wounds that result when clashes in your navigation systems occur.

That’s exactly why I wrote Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy. Frequent Foreplay Miles™ is a fun, easy-to-understand, and healthy strategy for improving intimacy. You will learn how to share your Foreplay Navigators™ with each other and thereby reduce the number of ways in which unintended hurts and disappointments occur. And you’ll learn how to identify and heal the wounds that, despite best efforts, nevertheless happen. And, what’s the result? That’s right – Total Intimacy. You’ll also learn how to:

• See every occasion as an opportunity for foreplay
• Develop the habit of constructive candor
• Turn knee jerk negative spin into positive spin
• Create and sustain a generous state of mind
• Embrace differences as way to express love and strengthen your bond
• Honor and protect your relationship as something bigger than the two of you
• Keep new-love playfulness alive
• Experience personal growth to the betterment of all your relationships
• Deal with habits that might otherwise drive each other crazy
• More easily cope with in-laws, children, friends, and other “fellow travelers”

Okay, I know you wanted all the answers right here. But then you wouldn’t buy the book. And, frankly, that’s exactly what I want you to do. Buy the book and find out how you can have Total Intimacy in your relationship.

Learn more about my one-on-one relationship consulting services, visit my Total Intimacy Blog, and read relationship stories to see how you can implement Frequent Foreplay Miles™ for creating intimacy in your relationship.