You’ve decided to marry again. You’re in good company. The vast majority of those who divorce jump right back into matrimony. Unfortunately, if the odds were less than favorable on the first voyage into matrimony, they’re even lower with remarriage, especially if you have children. The issues, problems, and external forces that come into play are exponentially more difficult the second (or third or fourth) time around. You have more complicated family and social arrangements; thornier financial and legal issues; and “Gordian-Knot” logistics that can exhaust you, your current honey, your previous partner, and your patience—all before you drop off your kids for their first weekend with your ex or try to attend four holiday dinners in one 24-hour period.

As a relationship expert and former estate planning attorney, as well as a successful veteran of remarriage myself, I’ve dealt with this topic both personally and professionally. I wrote Frequent Foreplay Miles for the Remarried to help you improve your odds as you plunge once again into the sea of couple-dom. I discuss:

• Prenuptial Agreements, Financial, Legal & Estate Planning Considerations: Do you think that having a prenuptial agreement is to admit that your marriage will end? Well, guess what—it will end, if not by divorce then by death. What’s more, even if you’ve never signed an agreement or written a will, you already have both a prenuptial agreement and an estate plan—the law that determines your financial and legal rights and obligations when you divorce or die. Smart couples don’t rely on the government to make such important decisions. They make their own decisions, and memorialize them in writing, after careful consideration of all the facts, law, and unique issues that relate to their relationship. I help you do just that.
• Logistics: Everything from announcing your engagement to deciding where to live to blending households, kids, family and pets requires the finesse of a Whitehouse Chief of Protocol, the logistical skills of an engineer, and the patience of a saint, all rolled into one person—YOU. I show you how to be that person with the help of your Foreplay/Family/Fill-in-the Blank Back-Pocket Guide.
• The Ghosts of Relationships Past: Dealing with the tangible baggage you bring with you to your remarriage is a cakewalk compared to dealing with the emotional baggage of failed relationships. You can change your ex for a new partner, but that won’t change you. Unless you identify and deal with your own issues, they’ll pop up again and again and again. I help you identify the baggage you need to leave at the door.
• Blending Families: Children—both your own and the step—are sometimes the enemy. The very kid for whom you’d give your life might be the enemy of your new love and a saboteur dedicated to the downfall of your remarriage. And “blending” doesn’t stop with the kids. Family, friends and even the ex-spouses, are all part of the bigger picture. I show you how to deal with all of them.
• The Ex: The people to whom you and your sweetheart were previously married never really go away, especially if there are children involved. And, an ex can wreak havoc with your new relationship if he or she chooses to do. I show you how to neutralize the ex-factor.

There’s still a lot to learn the second, third, or fourth time around. Read together, my first book, Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy, and Frequent Foreplay Miles for the Remarried can help you successfully navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of remarriage.