News flash!  The older you are the happier you are–or so says a new study. I’m not surprised.

I’ve reached the big six-oh and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I no longer care–as I did in my youth–about wearing shoes that look fabulous when you’re sitting down but in which you cannot walk more than 2 steps without wincing in agony. I dress around my bunions and I do not care if my shoes are… Read the rest

All this ballyhoo about four guys getting together to down a brew or two has got me thinking maybe they’re onto something. After all, Professor Gates and the guy who arrested him, Officer Crowley, now seem to be best buddies.

True, anyone who sits down with the prez (members of Congress excluded of course) is likely to behave. But I think it was the beer. Breaking bread or imbibing together is just so darned… Read the rest

Sometimes I think communication between sweethearts is a lot like the Gary Larson cartoon where, in the first frame, the man is speaking to the dog in English. The caption reads, “What the man is saying.” In the next frame, the man is saying, “Blah, blah, blah,” and the caption reads, “What the dog is hearing.”

Back in our dating days, after hubby Dale had… Read the rest

I am a nut cake about being on time.  I hate being late and it makes me crazy when others keep me waiting.  Dale, on the other hand, is relaxed about time commitments.  In the early days of our relationship, he was late often enough that my belief about him became “he is always late.”   I came to expect that he would not arrive at… Read the rest

One of the coolest things about Frequent Foreplay Miles is the bazillion ways in which you can earn them.  Here’s a great example that came from one of my workshop attendees . . .

Susan had a particularly bad day at work, starting with a computer crash and the resignation of her top programmer.  Stan wanted to have flowers waiting for Susan when she got… Read the rest

Have you ever contemplated your relationship and wondered, “If we’re so made for each other, how come we so often butt head, step on each other’s toes, and get our wires crossed?”  Why are there so many opportunities for two perfectly sane human beings to become insanely set in their own ideas of what’s right and what’s not? I think it’s because each of us… Read the rest

Would you be surprised to hear me say that keeping score can keep your marriage happy and strong?  That may fly in the face of what relationship gurus have been spouting since Eve met Adam, but show me a sweetheart who hasn’t said, “You owe me one,” or “You just lost a few points,” and I’ll show you a sweetheart who’s stopped paying attention.  I… Read the rest